i'm just going to keep this short.

yesterday i was informed that my cousin's husband killed himself. what little we know, there were marital issues that precipitated this, but for whatever reason, he felt that it was better to kill himself than go down a different avenue.

i never met him (my cousin is on a different branch of the family tree than mine), so i have no idea what he was like, so i don't have any real opinion on this other than 'oy'. the part that bothers me is his family is blaming my cousin for him killing himself. fuck you. you obviously don't know the full story, and if thru your grief and rage actually set your rage aside for a moment, you might discover that maybe it wasn't my cousin's fault. i certainly do not know the circumstances, but in a time like this, getting angry at the person who was the supposed root of HIS depression/insecurities is just plain wrong. maybe, just maybe, there was more to this than you know. maybe if you would talk to my cousin in a civil tone, you might hear her side of the story.

suicide is fucking selfish. it affects everyone around you, and he took the easy way out. he didn't think of his family, his wife, his SON. he thought of himself. he killed himself.

so i end on this:

to his grieving family, fuck you.

to my cousin, i'm sorry. our side of the family is here for you.